Andrea Jenks Graves

June 24, 1944 - August 1, 2014
Andrea Jenks Graves


Andrea Gay Jenks Graves, age 70, of Wrightsville Beach, NC passed away Friday, August 1st at her home, her husband Dick Graves at her side.

She was predeceased by her father, John Alton Jenks. Besides her husband, she leaves behind to cherish her memory two brothers, John and Kirk Jenks; three sons Mike, Matt and Andy Graves; six grandchildren Caroline, Colin, Jack, Gabby, Keagan, and Rylan Graves; her aunt Bert McFayden; and her beloved mother, Sally Hatfield Jenks.

Andrea Gay, also known by her several nicknames, Andy Gay, Gay, Jenks, and Jenksie, was born June 24th, 1944 in Matewan, West Virginia in the presence of her grandparents Andrew and Gay Hatfield, both of whom she was named for. Her grandfather Andrew was the son of the ill-fated Ellison Hatfield, one of the first victims of the Hatfield McCoy feud along the West Virginia/Kentucky border. Her father, John Alton Jenks, was enlisted in the Army at the time of birth and met her 2 weeks later to take the family back to Camp Van Dorn in Mississippi. She grew up in Afton, NY and graduated from Afton Central School. She then attended the Woman’s College of UNC at Greensboro, UNC Chapel Hill, where she met her husband, and graduated from American University with a degree in Sociology.

Andrea and Dick made their homes in Chenango Bridge, NY, Sherman, TX, Colorado Springs, CO, Bethesda MD and eventually Wrightsville Beach. Along with raising three grateful sons, Andrea became a Girl Scout troop leader, Sunday School teacher, and after moving to Bethesda, settled into a professional role in Administration at her husband’s company, Ralph Graves Productions. Over the course of more than 25 years with the company, she forged long-lasting relationships with clients and vendors, sometimes traveled to shows, and became an important first impression for potential new business.

She will be incredibly missed by her extended family and friends, who are scattered throughout the many places she has lived. Especially missed will be her vibrant personality, sense of humor, penchant for playing endless games of Backgammon, and special connection with her grandchildren.

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  • August 10, 2014
    Molly McDaneld Hodge says:
    Jenks lives in my memory laughing with that impish expression on her face. She was hilarious and warm and charming at the same time. She and Dick took me under their wing when I was far from home and gave me great opportunities. I'm so grateful that I got to know her and the entire Graves family. We send our love and thoughts to you all.

  • August 11, 2014
    Judy Vail Giblin says:
    Andy Gay and I were in high school together. She was a constant source of laughter and I really enjoyed cheerleading and music with her. My most sincere sympathies to all of her family. I know she'll be missed.

  • August 04, 2014
    Kara Cumberland says:
    I will miss Mrs. Graves so much. So many lovely memories of their house on Gloster and her warm presence throughout. Much love to her family and especially my good friend, her beloved Andy.

  • August 05, 2014
    Kathy Settle says:
    Expressions of Sympathy Kathy Settle has sent this Expressions of Sympathy card.

  • August 12, 2014
    Carol and Dick Schleicher says:
    We were sorry to hear about the death of Andrea. We have fond memories of her and your family when you lived in Woodacres. We miss you.