Brenda Juanita Cole

May 6, 1950 - May 31, 2021
Brenda Juanita Cole

Brenda Juanita Cole, age 71, of Wilmington, passed away on Monday, May 31, 2021, at her home.

Brenda was born on May 6, 1950 in Griffin, GA. She was the only child of Carolyn McCarty and the late J. Benjamin McCarty.

She graduated with a Bachelor of Arts degree from Duke University in 1971 and subsequently obtained her Master’s degree from George Mason University. She taught in various public schools for several years. She had a lifelong passion for literature. Brenda was loved dearly and will be miss by all who knew her.

She is survived by her husband Alan Cole, of Wilmington, and by her three children, Peter J. DePaolis, Stephanie Steinmetz and Diana DePaolis Gouveia.

In lieu of flowers, please donate to Reading is Essential for All People (REAP) in Brenda’s honor. REAP is a non-profit organization dedicated to improving reading proficiency in public schools through teacher training and enrichment in the state of Georgia. Donations can be sent in her honor at

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  • June 05, 2021
    Nelda Parker says:
    I am so very sorry to hear of Brenda's passing. Sincere condolences to you all.

  • June 06, 2021
    Jim and Helen Cameron , Ga says:
    Our Deepest Sympathy. Brenda babysat for our children many years ago. We will always remember her. A very sweet person.

  • June 11, 2021
    Teresa Exum says:
    I graduated with Brenda from Henry County High School in 1968. About 26 years ago she called me because she was taking a trip to California and she had some questions since I used to live there. I told her to please call me when she got back but I never heard from her again. So sorry to hear this. My condolences to her family at this time. I specifically remember how smart Brenda was. And she was a very nice person

  • August 03, 2021
    Linda and Douglas Milton says:
    We were Brenda’s “across the street” neighbors and friends on Ebbtide Lane. What a joy to know Brenda who was one of the kindest and smartest people that we knew! Our children were friends and grew up together! She truly loved Peter, Diana and Stephanie! There are so many Brenda and the kids stories that we fondly recall! The news of her passing saddens us beyond measure. She built great relationships with every single member of our family and we will continue to pray for her family.

  • August 03, 2021
    Linda and Douglas Milton says:
    We were Brenda’s “across the street” neighbors and friends on Ebbtide Lane! Brenda was one of the kindest and smart people that we knew! There are so very many Brenda and the kids stories that we continue to enjoy telling. Brenda managed to establish wonderful relationships of each and everyone in our family. What a Blessing! We will always remember Brenda’s kindness and will continue to pray for Peter, Diana, Stephanie, Alan and the rest of Brenda’s family. Love.