Frank James Demeter Jr.

March 4, 1944 - June 26, 2010
Frank James Demeter Jr.

Frank J. Demeter Jr. of Wilmington passed away Saturday, June 26, 2010 at his home surrounded by family and friends.

Frank was born in New York City, one of two sons of parents born in Hungary. He graduated from Power Memorial Academy and graduated from Iona College with a Bachelor’s Degree in Economics. Frank worked at Bloomingdale’s Department Store throughout college, until he was hired by the New York City Welfare Department as a caseworker in 1967. He moved to Wilmington in late 1972 and was hired at the New Hanover County Department of Social Services in 1973 as a caseworker in Children’s Services. In 1986, he was transferred to Adult Services Unit to work in the In-Home Services Program. For the past 20 years, until his retirement in February 2010, Frank held the position of Adult Protective Services (APS) social worker in the Adult Services Unit. There are not many employees who can boast that they worked 37 years and 2 months for the same agency! He was a dedicated employee who has demonstrated loyalty to his job and a sincere desire to assist many disenfranchised persons on a day to day basis.

Frank has assisted the Area Agency on Aging with various aging and elder abuse prevention educational functions for many years. He has been instrumental in assisting the AAA with the Cape Fear Elder Abuse Prevention Network, a regional network of professionals and volunteers whose purpose is to increase education and awareness of elder abuse in the four county area. His passion as a social worker, calm approach to problematic issues, and his vast expertise of twenty years as an Adult Protective Social Worker has been invaluable to the lives of many, many people he has touched over the years!

Frank was dedicated to his community and gave back in uncountable ways. He was an active member of Saint Therese Catholic Church in Wrightsville Beach and volunteered with various organizations. He was Chairperson of the Parish Council for 8 years.

Frank was preceded in death by his parents, Elizabeth and Frank Demeter. He is survived by a brother, George and wife Judy of Boiling Spring Lakes. He is also survived by a special friend, Dottie.

Mass of Christian Burial will be held 11:00am Thursday, July 1, at Saint Therese Catholic Church, 209 South Lumina Avenue, Wrightsville Beach.

In lieu of flowers, the family suggests donations in his name be made to Lower Cape Fear Hospice at 1414 Physicians Drive, Wilmington, NC 28401.

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  • June 29, 2010
    Holly Royals says:
    Frank's smile and stories will be missed - he was a great friend to all. My condolences to all his family and friends.

  • June 30, 2010
    Cathy T. Holland says:
    My thoughts and prayers go out to the family and the dear friends that loved Frank.He indeed had a heart of gold. God Bless. Cathy T. Holland

  • June 29, 2010
    Greg and Donna Howard says:
    I served with Frank for many years at St. Therese Church as a lector and an eucharistic minister. My husband and I were very sorry to learn of Frank's passing. We are currently out of the country and will not be able to attend the service. Our sympathies. Greg and Donna Howard

  • June 29, 2010
    Alice Johnson-Haynes says:
    Frank was a kind, loving, forgiving man ... he demonstrated his walk with God by the way he lived ... I will miss him very, very much ... my love to George, Judy and Dottie

  • June 29, 2010
    John Wasson says:
    It was my priviledge to know and work with Frank at DSS for many years. In any crisis-and there always seemed to be a few-Frank was calm, centered, compassionate and possesed a geat dry sense of humor. His clients loved him. His friends loved him. He will be greatly missed. My deepest sympathy to his family and to his colleagues at NHCDSS. John Wasson Lenoir NC