Henry Thomas Heitman, IV

September 7, 1968 - September 18, 2021
Henry Thomas Heitman, IV

Henry Thomas Heitman IV (“Tom”, “Tommy”) of Wilmington, NC lost his battle against COVID-19 on Saturday, September 18, 2021 at the age of 53.

Tom was a dedicated father, husband, brother, son, and friend who gave so much to so many. He was known for his determination and perseverance, his kindness and generosity, and most importantly his love for his family near and far.

Tom was born in St Louis Missouri to his mother Judy and father Henry Thomas Heitman III on Sept 7, 1968. He was blessed to be raised and loved by two families as a child. He was raised by Judy Ross Wittstein and Dr. Peter Bryan Wittstein in Connecticut, Virginia, and North Carolina and also by Mr. and Mrs. Tom Heitman in Missouri. Tom was deeply loved by all his siblings.

Tom was very active in sports as a child and enjoyed baseball, basketball, soccer, football, and wrestling. He attended Hoggard High School in Wilmington, NC and graduated in 1987. He lettered in both football and wrestling.

He went on to study Business Administration at UNCW. It was there that he met the love of his life Peyton Allen Heitman. Peyton and Tom were married Aug. 14, 1993. They welcomed three children to complete their family: Madison in 1999, Henry Ross in 2003, and Emma in 2006. Tom’s pride and joy were his wife and children, and second to them was Wilmington Commercial. Tom established Wilmington Commercial Real Estate and took great pride in helping all members of the Wilmington community achieve their dreams of home and property ownership. He also enjoyed coaching and volunteering in his community.

Tom is predeceased by his father Henry Thomas Heitman III and Mrs. Pat Heitman as well as his father-in-law Graham Allen. He is survived by his wife Peyton Allen Heitman, their three children Madison, Henry, and Emma, his mother Judy Ross Wittstein, his siblings Jocelyn Wittstein (Tally Lassiter), Carly Foster (Josh), Tommy Heitman (Amy), Chris Heitman, Dana Deeken (Kirk), and Greta Irwin (Jim), his sisters-in-law Gena Casey (Larry), Brooks Buskirk (Jim), his brother-in law Josh Allen, his mother-in law Judy Allen, and many loving aunts, uncles, cousins, nephews, and nieces.

A memorial service will be held at Port City Community Church (250 Vision Dr. Wilmington, NC 28403) on Saturday Sept. 25, 2021 at 4 pm. The family requests that those in attendance wear masks.

In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to one of Tom’s passions, the Hoggard High School Wrestling program. In honor of Tom, donations can be made at www.tmcfunding.com.

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  • September 23, 2021
    Joyce Mack says:
    Such a loss to our family. We all cherish every memory of Tom growing up. He was a loving, caring child before he was the wonderful friend you all describe. We were all so lucky to have had him in our lives. Our hearts go out to Peyton, Madison, Henry, and Emma.

  • October 22, 2021
    Brian & Tiffany England says:
    The first time we met I asked Tom when was the best time to meet and he said “No better time than the present” which at that time it was around 8pm at night. He was such a good and caring guy who always made time to talk etc at his office or out to eat at a restaurant. He will be missed!

  • October 10, 2021
    Amy Russo says:
    Tom was a good soul. We spent a great deal of time with him not to long ago in relation to his second passion, real estate….but every encounter, we talked aBbout what our kids were doing. His face lit up when he talked about his children. He will be missed. God rest his soul. Our deepest condolences. Dave and Amy Dahl

  • September 30, 2021
    Jay and Cindy Curley says:
    Dear Peyton and Family, We are saddened and shocked to hear this news. A friend called to tell us as we have been away. Tom mentored us when we joined the real estate world many years ago. He was patient, kind and always wanting his friends to do better. Our sincere condolences on your family's loss. Jay and Cindy Curley

  • September 30, 2021
    Richard La Verne Hollembeak says:
    Will miss Tom , only can think of good things to say about his life .