James Wilson McCarthy

September 15, 1953 - January 30, 2016
James Wilson McCarthy

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James Wilson McCarthy, 62, entered eternal life on Saturday January 30, 2016 at his home in Wilmington, NC.

He was born September 15, 1953 in Montgomery, AL to John Francis McCarthy, Jr. and Marie Louise Corteal McCarthy, both of whom preceded him in death.

Jim was a graduate of Oakton High School in Fairfax County, Virginia in 1971, where he played varsity football, and in 1979 he received his Bachelor of Business Administration from George Washington University. He was loved by many and known as a very sweet and generous man. Family members have great memories of his infectious smile and his loving spirit and he was best known for his passion for sports, especially the Washington Redskins and the Alabama Crimson Tide.

Jim is survived by his brothers John Francis McCarthy III, Joseph Lennard McCarthy (Becky), and Jeffrey Scott McCarthy (Lisa), his cousins Jackie Barth Hansen (Rolf), Sherry Barth Pepock (Dan), and Robbie Barth (Kim), his niece Kerry McCarthy Poinsett (Gary), his nephew John McCarthy, his great-niece Hannah Marie Wagster and his great-nephew Jesse Austin Wagster.

A memorial service will be held at 11:00AM on Saturday, April 16, 2016, at the Hilton Garden Inn Mayfaire, 6745 Rockspring Road Wilmington, NC 28405, with a private family dinner that evening.

The family asks that any contributions be made in Jim’s memory to the American Diabetes Association.

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  • February 04, 2016
    Jim Price says:
    RIP Jamie, your journey is done.

  • February 05, 2016
    Jackie Hansen says:
    I was blessed to have you in my life Jamie. My heart is broken & I loved you dearly. Till we meet again my dear cousin ! Love you always !

  • February 05, 2016
    Kerry Poinsett lit a candle:
    Lit since February 5, 2016 at 2:51:10 PM

  • May 10, 2021
    Craig Ward says:
    Upon searching for friends I hoped to see at my 50th high school reunion, I just learned of Jim's passing. On today, my 68th birthday, I want to honor the kind of young man I recall - mainly from 1967 - 72. I met Jim and Joe Zelibor Jr. walking home from football practice in 1967 to our subdivision in Fairfax - Mosbey Woods. Jim, Joe and I were on the Oakton football team until 1969, and Jim replaced me on the team at Tackle when I left the team. Jim left soon thereafter in a team drinking scandal, but we'll skip over that. Jim, Joe Zelibor and I hung out, and frequently slept over, at my house so many weekends during and after high school we heard there was a rumor was that we were gay. What we were actually doing was playing cards, throwing frisbees in the street, and talking about girls, and listening to rock; too frequently lubricated. The Summer of 1971(?) after Jim and I were fired at a job he hooked me up with as laborers at a K-Mart in Fairfax, Jim Joe and I became a 3-man sheetrock crew in apartments getting paid 25 cents per 4'x12' sheet - it was hot, dirty and exhausting work which I survived thanks to Jim; the strongest among us, and his yellow Ford Fairlane. It was at that job where Jim decided to quit GW and work construction with a crew I believe he worked with for years, probably before he moved to North Carolina. Joe (deceased too from a motorcycle accident) went off to college after Oakton, so from 69-72 (after which I left for college in Washington State) Jim and I shared many two-man adventures - Jim in his top hat and long hair partying in Georgetown, a wild weekend with Jim's brother and sister-in-law at a retreat/former monastery outside Boone NC, several rock concerts, a hot Summer afternoon throwing frisbees on the Shenandoah River, romances and breakups. Jim and I helped his brother Joe pack his car as Joe left for Woodstock. Jim and I once whistled catcalls, from up in a street tree, to GW college girls outside a DC bar - one of many memories the two of us created but which, by 1987, Jim had lost. I'm grateful to Joe Zelibor for staying constant as Jim's friend, but I'm sure Joe's death was a major blow to Jim as it was to me. I visited Fairfax in 1987 unexpectedly and the three of us we got to hang out, but it was apparent that Jim's treatments had robbed him of all our old memories, and I've grieved ever since for losing the Jim I knew and loved, while hoping he found peace with his family once he moved to NC. Jim's lovely mom and I had a fantastic chat that long Friday afternoon in 1987 when we waited for Jim to get home from work and meet Joe for dinner as they did every Friday night. I stayed with Jim and his girlfriend that weekend and we had a lovely time together - the last time I saw or spoke with Jim. I tried to stay in touch with Jim, but once Joe Zelibor was killed, my link with Jim was lost and I couldn't find him among the NC James McCarthy's. I am glad to hear that he got his BA from GW, as that must have meant a lot to all of his family and to Jim. in the hope Jim too planned to attend his 50th high school reunion, my alumni search this morning for "Jim McCarthy, Oakton" popped Jim's obituary. I hate to end this ramble, because I hate to say goodby to Jim again. He was a gentle, loyal and cherished friend who will always be loved, and is therefore deeply missed, by all who knew him as I did. I hope he died in peace. Any feedback from friends or family would be welcome. Love you, man. You'll always be in my heart. Craig "Chip" Ward 9714044858