Jay Douglas Wilcox, Jr.

June 28, 1943 - February 13, 2020
Jay Douglas Wilcox, Jr.


Jay Douglas Wilcox, Jr died February 13th, 2020 at home surrounded by loved ones.

He was born at Bullocks Hospital in Wilmington, NC on June 28th, 1943, to the late Jay Douglas Wilcox and Gertrude Herring Wilcox.

Jay is survived by the love of his life and wife of 53 years, Susan Mintz Wilcox; daughter, Amy Louise Wilcox; son, Matthew Douglas Wilcox; daughter-in-law, Brandy Oliver Wilcox; and five grandchildren Matthew Haydn McCausland, II, Erin Riley McCausland, Matthew Wyatt Wilcox, Jacob Case Smith and Elijah Jay Smith; his sister Geraldine (Jerry) Wilcox Bron and brother-in-law, Dirk Bron. One nephew and three nieces. He was preceded in death by his grandson, Christopher Scott Parker.

Being the son of a career military man, Jay grew up all over the United States, and two years spent in Great Britain, but always called Wilmington home. In 1963, he returned to Wilmington for the remainder of his life. He served in the NC National Guard from 1964 to 1970. In 1994 he retired after almost 30 years with Southern Bell/BellSouth Telephone Company. He was also a very active volunteer and Board member for Cape Fear Habitat for Humanity from 1989 to 2004, and served as their General Contractor for four years. This was one of the most enjoyable times of his life, believing that every child should be raised in a decent home. After retirement, Jay enjoyed traveling with Susan and seeing as much of the United States and the world as they could. Jay was an active member of the United Advent Christian Church.

A memorial service will be held at 2:00pm on Friday, February 21st, 2020 at United Advent Christian Church, 4912 South College Road, Wilmington, NC 28412. Family will receive visitors at the church at 1:00pm prior to the service.

In lieu of flowers, the family asks that donations be made to ‘UACC Men’s Fellowship’ or St. Jude, 501 St. Jude Place, Memphis, TN 38105.

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  • February 14, 2020
    Becky Hines says:
    Susan and family, our deepest sympathies. Becky & Arnold

  • February 14, 2020
    Wallace Gray says:
    Jay was a man you respected. He was a good friend. His memory always amazed me. He would tell me stories we experienced 30-50 years ago. I will miss him. Prayers for his family.

  • February 14, 2020
    Wayne Carver says:
    I worked with Jay many years volunteering with Habitat. He was one of the GREAT ones, a pleasure to work with and just be around!! He will be missed!!

  • February 15, 2020
    Jack willie says:
    My deepest sympathy to Susan and family. Jay seemed like an old friend soon after meeting him at Church. May many good memories help fill.the void

  • February 15, 2020
    Dick and Debbie Miller says:
    Susan, so sorry to hear of Jay's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.