John Ray Self

September 25, 1957 - May 5, 2022
John Ray Self

John Ray Self 64, of Wilmington passed away Thursday, May 5, 2022 at the Novant Health at New Hanover Regional Medical Center.

John was born in Highland Park, Michigan on September 25, 1957 to the late Richard Elijah Self and Cora Miller Self.

John was a proud US Army veteran and had served in the US Army Band. He was a talented musician and played all low brass instruments. He was part of the Wilmington Salvation Army Band and had performed in many venues in Wilmington. He was a member of LifePoint Church in Wilmington. John’s career before he retired was a professional truck driver.

John is survived by his loving wife of 24 years, Tanya Davis Self; sons Richard Andrew Davis and Carlos Jonathan Conant (Stephanie); grandchildren, Kyle Patrick Davis and Rachel Naomi Davis; brother Ron Self (Jennifer) Sister In Law Janese Oglesbee, Brother in Law Bill Burnside (Laura) and numerous cousins, nieces and nephews.

He spent his retirement relaxing at the beach, cooking gourmet meals, composing music and writing his memoirs. He devoted most of his time spoiling his incredibly pampered dog Maya.

A special thanks to Jonalyn Reynolds and Gene Croom for their unwavering support.

To honor John’s wishes, he is to be cremated and his urn taken back to his family hometown of Clarksville, TN for burial.

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  • May 08, 2022
    Rosemarie Eipper says:
    May Our Lord Jesus Shine His Perpetual Light Upon You My Dear Friend. Rest Softly, Free of Pain. My Love and Condolences To Tanya and Your Family. ✝️

  • May 08, 2022
    Brenda Taylor says:
    May God bless you and keep you; as only He can do. Please know we are here for you Tania.!

  • May 08, 2022
    Randy-Lynn Berkwitt says:
    It was a pleasure bumping into John at Arbor Trace. He was a gentle, engaging, and kind soul. My sincerest condolences to his loving family. Love to Tanya, and comforting boops to his beloved furbaby Maya. May John Rest in Eternal Love.

  • May 10, 2022
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