Marilynda Mouchet Nease

March 6, 1954 - June 22, 2022
Marilynda Mouchet Nease

Memorial Gifts & Donations

“Mur” to some, was 68 and recently resided in Wilmington, NC.  She passed peacefully in her sleep at her home Wednesday, June 22, 2022 and is now in heaven that she strongly believed in. Born in Asheville, NC, she lived in many places in the western part of the state as her parents, Dr. Edgar Harrison Nease, Jr. and Marianna Caldwell Nease served the United Methodist church.
She fondly called Lake Junaluska, NC as her home.  She was predeceased by both of her parents, as well as by her only sibling, Eddie Nease.  She loved him ferociously and he protected and mentored her lovingly about life. She went to Tuscola High School in Waynesville, NC, got her undergraduate degree in psychology at Columbia College in Columbia, SC, and got her masters degree in pastoral counseling at Loyola College in Maryland.

Marilynda was a high school social studies teacher and guidance counselor in her early career for 15 years at the Optional Education Center in Winston-Salem, NC. This specialized school was for students who did not function well in traditional high schools.  There was always a flock of adoring students around her desk waiting to talk with her.  She has always been the consummate listener that many challenged students desperately needed.

Her masters in pastoral counseling next allowed her to start her own private practice so she could help adults with a myriad of issues as she often wove in potential helpful spiritual ideas if the clients so desired.

On a personal note, Mur has always been a dog lover and was known to kiss hers and friend’s dogs on the top of their heads, leaving the red lipstick kiss mark that she became known for.  Cute little babies and small children also often got the same unexpected blessing.  It was widely known that she also was an unabashed Duke Blue Devils fan.  Mur has asked to be cremated and she will be dressed in her best Duke Blue Devis sweatshirt.

Marilynda’s long-time partner of 42 years is, Cheryl Ellen Flynn, originally from NY state, and they were lucky enough to be married too for 8 years.  This couple had to carefully navigate many barriers to their relationship in the early years but patiently made many around them come to love them for who they were as the world’s ideas slowly evolved.

No services are planned at this time but a celebration of her life of some sort will occur later. She would have loved it if she knew that any memorial donations in her name would be made to the dog rescue or animal support organization of your choice.

Mur’s favorite quote not surprisingly was, “Listening is the greatest compliment that you can give someone.”

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  • January 15, 2023
    Suzie Mstthews says:
    Mur is a favorite memory of my years teaching at an alternative school! She was the prettiest and most fun person in the staff! Students and faculty adored her!!I am so very sorry to hear of her desth and many mo ths afterward. My heart goes out to Cherie!

  • January 10, 2023
    Rudy Diamond says:
    I worked with Mur at Optional Ed. She was a fabulous teacher loved by her students. My heartfelt condolences to Cheryl.

  • August 19, 2022
    Carol Jones says:
    To know Mur was to love her and I did. Cherie, my heart is broken for all our loss, but especially yours! It’s August and I’m just know learning of her passing in June, otherwise you would have heard from me months ago so I can only hope you read this. I have no address or phone # for you, but mine remains the same.

  • July 19, 2022
    Bobette (Nease) Rousseau Cambell says:
    My heart is broken to know of Mur's passing. She was my sister-in-law and I have missed her for years. A saint on earth, now in heaven. We had many wonderful times together during our years in Waynesville and Lake Junaluska. She was a wonderful sister to both Eddie and me - I loved her dearly. Was hoping one day we would all find a way to reunite - eventually we will. Her parents Edgar and Marianna were two of the most incredible people I've ever known. They raised two beautiful children who loved life and God. These were some of the most cherished years of my life. Our Great Dane's name was Duke, of course. I cant think of a better memorial than sending a gift in Marilynda's name to rescue dogs who are in need. Cherie, I send you my hugs and prayers and hope to meet you some day. I am here anytime - please let me hear from you if you have a chance as I don't know how to reach you. 305-979-1994. Love, Bobette

  • July 16, 2022
    Libby and Jeff Bush says:
    Cheri, we are so sad as we continue to send our love and prayers. Our memories are full of beautiful times living next door to Ms. Mur and Ms. Cheri, the best, most loving neighbors. The fun, joy filled and loving times you both created for Matthew and Makayla are with all four of us forever. Working in the yard, playing with the dogs, and enjoying social times together are part of their early years. So grateful for Mur - her radiant smile, infectious laugh, and care for all.