Richard S. Gray

June 20, 1936 - February 23, 2015
Richard S. Gray

Richard Scanlan Gray, age 78 of N. Topsail Beach, NC passed away Monday, February 23, 2015 at his home with his family after a short fight with cancer.

Richard was born on June 20, 1936 in Newport News, VA. His parents were Arnoll Hall Gray and Mary Theresa Scanlan Gray. Richard was preceded in death by his parents and his brother, Arnoll Hall Gray, Jr.

Family left to remember Richard are his wife of 24 years, Rene’ Suzanne Bannister Gray; his labrador “Salty”; children, Michael G. Lee, Jr. and wife Tanya of Roanoke, VA, Paula E. Grose and husband Joe of Dallas, GA, Babiche M. Slack of Stockholm, NJ; grandchildren, Lindsay Grose, Morgan Grose, Emily Grose, Davis Lee, and Ethan Lee; sister, Ethelann Gray Ponzo and husband Ronnie of Newport News, VA; other family members, mother-in-law Nita Carmichael of Greenwood, SC, brother and sister-in-law, Dan and Jenny Bannister of Hendersonville, NC; and many nieces and nephews.

Richard graduated from Virginia Polytechnic Institute in 1960 with an Engineering degree and held various jobs throughout his career retiring as a civil servant for the US Army in 1997.

A memorial mass will be held at a later date to be announced.
Memorial donations in Richard’s memory, in lieu of flowers should be made to the Lower Cape Fear Hospice Foundation, 1414 Physicians Dr., Wilmington, NC 28401 (910.796.7900). The care provided to Richard by the Hospice was beyond words, Thank You.

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Wilmington Funeral & Cremation, 1535 S. 41st Street, Wilmington, NC 28403 910.791.9099


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  • February 25, 2015
    Faust Family says:
    Dear Family, we are sorry to hear of your loss. May your many memories bring you peace. May the words of Psalm 34:18 bring you comfort. The words of this Psalm of David, reminds us that Almighty God is always close to the broken hearted; He saves those who are crushed in spirit. Our sympathy to all of you.

  • March 01, 2015
    Vernita Lucas Baldwin says:
    Suzanne and Family: Words cannot express the level of sympathy I send to each of you. It was such a joy to have worked back in the 90's as a secretary for Mr. Gray. It is my prayer that each of you will find the kind of peace that surpasses all understating to keep your hearts and minds rhrough Christ Jesus. Be encouraged at this sad time. In deepest sympathy, Rev. Dr. Vernita Baldwin

  • March 02, 2015
    Dick and Charlotte Macartney says:
    Richard's family, Richard was a delightful man and a good friend. His time on the beach was special to us and will miss him. Our condolences are sincere Every time I drive our Spyder I will remember his love of cars. Dick

  • February 28, 2015
    Henry & Joyce Bennett says:
    Dear Suzanne and Family, We are so sad to hear of Richard's passing. However, under the circumstances, we know he is in a better place and free of pain. We fondly remember his smile and good humor in retirement and the good times we had eating out, sitting around telling tall tales, discussing religion, and sightseeing in various places. He was also a very good friend and supporter in the work environment. We will sorely miss him.

  • February 28, 2015
    Kathy thompson says:
    Suzanne I am so sorry for the loss of your husband Richard. I know that he will be missed and that Heaven has welcomed him home . You and your family are in my prayers and my thoughts. In deepest sympathy kathy