Ronald Hervey Lafond

March 15, 1942 - March 23, 2020
Ronald Hervey Lafond

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Ronald Hervey Lafond of Wilmington passed away from complications of pancreatic cancer on Monday, March 23,2020 at his home in Autumn Hall, Wilmington, NC, with family by his side. He is survived by his wife Ursula, daughter Shari Thompson, son Ron and his husband Mike, grandsons Jackson and Alexander Thompson, brother Lawrence and his wife Claudette of Salem, NH, sister Diane and her husband Bill O’Brien of Hypoluxo, FL, and several nieces and nephews.

Ron was born on March 15, 1942, in Lawrence, Massachusetts, and attended local schools before graduating from then Lowell Technological Institute (now UMass-Lowell) in 1963 with a B.S. in Industrial Management. He later received his MBA from Golden Gate University in 1974. He entered the US Air Force in 1964 and completed a 23-year aviation career that included flying C-130, C-141c and C5A aircraft as an aircrew navigator. In 1968-69 he flew Tactical Airlift missions in Vietnam and received several Air Commendation medals. During this time flying in and out of the Vietnam theater, Ron met and began dating Ursula, and they married on June 2, 1973, at Travis Air Force Base, Fairfield, CA.

His last flying assignment was with the Blue Tail Flies of the 435th Tactical Airlift Wing, Rhein-Main Air Base, Germany, in the early 1980s. He then completed several assignments at the Pentagon retiring at the rank of Lieutenant Colonel in 1987. His second career was spent working for the US Army in aviation and acquisition positions as a contractor at the Pentagon and Huntsville, AL, supporting the Apache Attack Helicopter program.

Ron and his family moved to Wilmington in 2007 to be closer to their daughter and grandsons. He was heavily involved in Wilmington sports activities over the last 10 years including Wilmington senior softball and YMCA basketball, and participated in two National Senior games in men’s softball receiving gold medals with his teams in 2011 and last year in Albuquerque, NM. Ron served on several residential Homeowners’ Associations including Autumn Hall, where he was known as “the unofficial Mayor”. He also volunteered his time with the New Hanover Board of Elections for over ten years as a precinct judge and one-stop voting official and worked for the New Hanover County tax office’s Board of Equalization and Review.

Given the unprecedented circumstances of these uncertain times, Wilmington Funeral and Cremation will post your condolences online at in lieu of a viewing.
The following services will be held at a later date:
• A Memorial Mass will be held at St. Mark Catholic Church, Eastwood Road, Wilmington; and
• Interment with Full Military Honors will occur at Arlington National Cemetery.
In lieu of flowers, please consider sending memorial contributions to the following organizations that support causes that were dear to Ron:
• – helping military families;
• – supporting children with advanced cancers and other medical needs; and
• – supporting pets and animals.

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  • March 27, 2020
    Brannon Walters says:
    Shari, Your boys and family are in my thoughts and prayers. If you need anything don’t hesitate to call. Also please let me and the boys know when a service will be scheduled after this other stuff passes. Keep your chin up! And smile all the time with all of the memories.

  • March 25, 2020
    Ginny and Richard says:
    Ursula, Ronnie and Shari, I am at a loss for words, I am sitting here in tears reading his obituary. Ron was so special and such a good friend to everyone. Richard and I send our love and prayers to all of you. Take care of yourselves, Love Ginny and Richard

  • March 25, 2020
    Herbert says:
    Einschlafen dürfen, wenn man das Leben nicht mehr selbst gestalten kann, ist der Weg zur Freiheit und Trost für alle.

  • March 25, 2020
    Joe & Brigitte Nanez and Peter Gaertner says:
    Dear Ursula, Shari, Ronnie and Mike, we are deeply saddened by the passing of our dear friend Ron. The last time we saw Ron was 19 years ago when he and Ursula took the time to attend Joe’s promotion ceremony at the Pentagon. We also spent time at their home reminiscing past memories. We will always remember his kindness and sense of humor. He will truly be missed. With love from all of us.

  • March 25, 2020
    Erin Mabry says:
    I’ll never forget the Halloween parade in 1st grade and he was so open and accepting of Luke and his differences. My heart is broken. Love, Erin