Susan Carol Da San Martino

May 27, 1960 - November 19, 2023
Susan Carol Da San Martino

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Susan was born in New Jersey to Eileen & Stewart Murray. She came early into this world as a preemie, and ever since she kept what we her family knew as “Sue Time”.  She was always on her own schedule, and would show up when she was good and ready. She grew up around Wade, NC with her sister, Donna. After graduating from Cape Fear High School, she moved to Raleigh, NC where she made fast friends with many, many people.

Sue was the image of a free spirit if one was to ever walk this earth. In the 1980’s, she decided the ocean was calling, and she did what she wanted to, and what she had to do, so she could hear the waves as often as possible. In Carolina Beach, she was the bartender for the Beach Club and OP Bar for many years where she was just steps away from the sand and sea. 

In July of 2000, at the Hiddenite Emerald Mine, Ret. USAF LTC Paul Da San Martino married Sue. The two rock hounds would travel across the southern United States selling handmade jewelry at military installations and craft shows. I’m sure we only know a few of the stories of their adventures, but we know they lived, and loved every minute.

In her most recent years, Sue was a humble caretaker. She opened her home to many members of her family and friends to care for them as they aged. She allowed them to live with dignity, and still have the fun she expected them to have. She cared for so many, Millie, Tyce, Ariel, Mae, Bill, and her beloved Paul.

Sue always said her family was bigger than anyone knew, and she was right. If you were considered a friend, you were family. There are too many to name to say thank you for loving Sue for so many years- We do extend a heartfelt and grateful thank you to her dear friend, Aaron Ballentine for being there with her when she needed you most.

A memorial service will be held on January 13th, at 3:30 p.m. at Mt. Carmel COGOP at 1655 Mt. Carmel Church Rd, Autryville, NC 28318

In Lieu of flowers, donations can be made to Veterans Memorial Reef out of Wilmington NC on her behalf at:

Proceeded in death by: Husband: Ret. USAF LTC Paul Da San Martino, Father: Stewart R. Murray, Mother in Law: Milie Da San Martino, Step Son: Paul Da San Martino, Jr.

She is cherished in the memories of her living relatives: Mother: Eileen Murray, Sister: Donna Ford (Elwyn),Nieces: Sara Ford, Lauren Carter, Nephew: Adam Ford (Lindsey) Step Daughter: Debbie Da San Martino, Step Grandsons: Jason Wood, Anthony Da San Martino, Joshua Miler, Aaron Da San Martino. Step Great Granddaughter, Charlee Miller, Aunts and Uncles: Mary Lebeda, Margaret Butterworth, and Frank and Nancy Ruggerio, many cousins. Special Friend, Aaron Ballentine, & a host of extended Family and Friends. 

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